Get over it and get on with it

Your attitude is what functions through your skills, education, experience, and abilities, determining if you are an Average Maker or a Difference Maker. 

Here are a few ideas to help you get your best attitude to rise to the surface: 

1. Feed your mind Positive Material 
Take 5 to 10 min a day to read a book or listen to a motivational/inspirational audio cd. 

2. What about the negative stuff that gets into our mind? 
Experts tell us we should be drinking 8 glasses of water a day because it flushes our system of toxins. Same concept is true to our minds. We do this by wisely selecting who we hang around with, what we choose to believe, and what we listen to, watch and read, we are selectively deciding to fill ourselves with only the best. 

3. Use uplifting, Empowering Words when you talk to yourself. 
Change your self talk, its very powerful and important to get you feeling your best, doing your best and going for the best. And if people ask “Why are you talking to yourself?” just tell them “I like to talk to smart, good looking people.” Lol

4. Look for the lighter side of situations. 
In every situation there is a brighter side or opportunity waiting to be discovered. Ask someone or several trusted people to help you see what you are not seeing. 

5. Sing like a Rock Star! 
I know this sound off the wall, but it works. Sing. Play some music loudly and sing to it. I like to sing “I’ve got Sunshine, on a cloudy day”. It will improve the quality of your mood! 

6. Exercise 
Your health has a huge impact on your attitude. Working out releases endorphins, which relieve stress and actually improve the quality of your mood. Do something at least 4 days a week for 30 min. 

7. Eat Healthy and Rest Up 
What we eat has a direct impact on our mind and body. Eat smaller portions. Eat that which will give your mind and body energy and life: Fruits, Vegetables, Nuts, beans,Fish. Don’t eat late at night either. Your body will be working all night trying to digest food when it should be resting and reviving you with energy. 

8. Smile 
Smiling makes you look good, feel good and attract others. Practice smiling more often. 

9. Beware of toxic attititudes(people) 
Some people have poor and negative attitudes and they don’t even realise it. Be on guard for these attitudes. Misery loves company and its always recruiting. Negative people have one goal in mind, to pull you down. Guard yourself from negative people by guarding your time with them and guarding your mind from their negative words. 

10. Get Real 
Ask those closes to you what kind of attitude they think you have. Now, be ready; it might not be the words you want to hear. If they say you are negative, or up and down, or dry, it’s an opportunity for you to improve, make it right and get healthy. Make some new choices and be open to changing. 

I got some of the info from Sam Glenn’s book A Kick in the Attitude 

Am I with the right partner?

I got this via email a few years ago, I dont know who the author is but I love sharing this one.

During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the
right person?" the author then noticed that there was a large man
sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?"
In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this
question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind
replied the author. Here's the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle...In the beginning, you fall in love
With your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and
Like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it
was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have
to DO anything.
That's
Why it's called "falling" in love.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Picture the
expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing
nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a
passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of
being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of
EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all),
touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's
idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will
notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were
in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. At this
point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the
right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you
once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else.
This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right
person; it's learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside
for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a
hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the
answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies
within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone
else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you’d be in
the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to
this): The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the
right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have
to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy.
And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO
to make it work. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery.
There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner).
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity),
there are also laws for relationships. If you know and apply these
laws, the results are predictable. You can “make" love. Love is
therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.

Remember this always "God” determines who walks into your life. It
is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and
who you refuse to let GO. 

My first post

Blogging is like a public diary, at least thats how I see it.

So why'd I start this blog? Curiosity? or Maybe I want to experiment if having blog will be therapeutic to me like having a a personal journal was?

Thing is, I dont write anymore, I havnt written in my journal for almost 3 years.

Writing about personal experiences, thoughts and feelings have many advantages so I'm giving this a go.I read in an article that expressive writing improves memory and sleep, boost immune cells and even speeds healing.

Whether my blog will be followed or not is not the goal, the goal is to express myself, to improve my writing skills and to share my knowledge and information.

So the name was easy, during Industrial Psychology tutorials the team came up with words to describe what they thought of team members and they chose sassy shafeeqah for me. 

A toast to Sassy Shafss ;-)